It has been one month since I started to try out my exercise plan. I have been successfully stick to the plan (Hooray!) and had the first step accomplished in terms of forming this habit.
The idea to set priority and form habits in life was inspired by chatting with my friend Yiru and reading the Zen habits blog she recommended.
The blog suggests to start with meditation as first habit as it is the foundation of all. I chose exercise as the first habit to try because 1) workout and sweating is the happiest moment for me; 2) exercise is something I know if you pay, you gain. There are not too many things like this; 3) exercise is used to be my habit and I just need to pick it up.
Below are what I found most useful for me to stick to the plan:
- Find a partner and commit to the plan together. In case one person didn’t complete the plan, the partner get punishment (rather than reward, as we felt we are too nice to punish others)
- Set minimum goal that you couldn’t find any excuse not to do it. My minimum goal is 10 push-ups. For the past month, I did 10 push-ups as minimum ( I did miss a few days – simply forgot), I consider a good day if I ran 1 mile, and a wonderful day if I swam, yoga, or went biking.
- Always have exercise gear with you (clean gym clothes and shoes; while clean is not mandatory)
- Enjoy during exercise
I will keep going with exercise habit, and will start to try meditation as second habit. I have read all the posts related to meditation from Zen habits and decided to try it with the attitude “Let’s see what happens”. I will start with 5 minute meditation every evening before going to bed.
Again quotes from Zen habits:
“You lethargic, waiting upon me,
waiting for the fire and I
attendant upon you, shaken by your beauty
Shaken by your beauty
~William Carlos Williams
Typically articles on ZB blog are very practical. This one is not. It starts with a poem and reads like a song and ends up with a picture in my head.
Today is Meimei’s first official day in daycare. She had two days for test drive before today. She did amazing on the past two days that no crying at drop-off, happy hanging out with teachers, eating well, and napping well (except a little incidence she was beaten on the chin by another kid :(). Of course most of these are based on reports from the teacher. I was relieved while surprised (too good to be true, isn’t it!). It seems nothing else I could ever ask for for her first daycare experience.
Today when I sent her lunch and was peeking outside the window. It is different than I imagined. She looked puzzled, confused, and not playing with teacher and other kids, and looks like she is thinking something. Her uncertain face expression reminded me when I first time left home and went to college all by myself. I was lonely and afraid and not sure what was coming. Now Meimei is only 17 month. She has been such a brave girl exploring this world.
One the first day of daycare, Meimei, mama wants to tell you: It is okay to cry anytime; it is okay not to be an “expected” girl; just slow down and take your time. We are all here with you. Love you.
最近在朋友的推荐下开始知道Zen habits 。这位博主是一个成功改变/形成了很多习惯的生活中的minimalist 。
他有六个小孩，家庭孩子一直是他生活中最高优先级。看他给孩子的话第一条是“You are good enough. Most people are afraid to do things because they are afraid they’re not good enough, afraid they’ll fail. But you are good enough — learn that and you won’t be afraid of new things, won’t be afraid to fail, won’t need the approval of others. You’ll be pre-approved — by yourself.” 这一点我不能同意更多。一直以来我喜欢给自己很多框框很多定义，觉得自己不够好，也因此错过很多乐趣和机会吧（比方说大学的时候选专业我觉得数分没学好就选不了数学专业，结果兜兜转转四年以后还是转专业到了统计）